Friday, January 18, 2008

Minxles

Someone commented yesterday that I don't look my age. Given that most people in polite society are hardly likely to say "My God, Kate, you look like a hag", I took very little notice, but being a shallow sort of person I grabbed a mirror a little later and peered at my 'now only five years years to fifty' face. I don't look much different than I did last Friday. Hmm.
But would it matter if I did? Would they like me/loathe me anymore than they do already? Do I judge a person by the life that shows on their face? I hope not.

On the whole the body is a very clever machine but I haven't figured out why my hair started to lose its colour at 16, or why it now feels the need to start sprouting body hair in some very astounding places (thank you Debi for reminding me). These are not the fine body hair of youth but some mean, wiry buggers who seem valiantly intent on trying to keep my aging body warm all by themselves. No amount of lotions or potions will keep them dead.

Recently a friend had a boob job. We all (because you can't help it) gathered around and admired their new found perky upstandiness. "I love them." she declared "They make me feel younger". There were a lot of quips about 'the woman you feel' but it got me thinking to what lengths would I go to hang onto a body that has decided to migrate south?

The answer was not very far. Filling my face with poison or stuffing myself with foreign objects does not appeal and having a tummy tuck always seems a bit like pulling a wrinkly pair of stockings up - eventually they fall down again.
Life and my children gave me this body and I am a strong believer that what is on the inside shows on the outside.
Anyway, I am still looking fab in me bikini....


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20 comments:

Roberta said...

In five years, go back and read this again.

trollop23 said...

I commend you on your decision not to let any doctor slice or dice you. I had a reduction/lift a few years ago and I don't feel like the bosom that sits under my shirt is mine anymore!
Don't get me wrong, it's nice to be able to wear decorative bras instead of the beige industrial armour I once had to sport. And they do look really lovely, but they're not mine and they're not me. If I had a time machine, I don't think I'd do it again.
I don't think you look fabulous "for your age". I think you look simply fabulous!!

Jon M said...

Sorry I missed your Birthday yesterday! Cor fancy being 45! I wonder what I'll be like when I'm that age? (next October ackchooally)! Pity the poor men folk valiantly fighting off man boobs! Not me natch, my pecs are slab-like and muskly...ahem!

Jon M said...

Oh and happy birthday for yesterday! :-)

Absolute Vanilla (& Atyllah) said...

I'm all for growing old both gracefully and totally disgracefully - whichever is more fun.

Cailleach said...

Oh I laughed at the 'hairy bits' - so true - sometimes I thin I'm going to end up with more hair than me husband!

A very Happy Birthday for yesterday! You do look fab in the flesh and you're wearing very, very well! You won't feel the next five roll by...

Minx said...

In 5 years time, Roberta, they will probably be fitting me catheter - sounds ideal!

A reduction is a different cup size altogether, Trollop. I am almost 100% against un-natural additions but would not hesitate with this one if I felt the need. Hope you get to 'know' them eventually.

Jon, get with the times - it's 'moobs' and it won't be long before man bras are available. Muskly slabs? Heh.

Disgracefully is much more fun, Aty, pass the hair dye, I have a yen to be purple again.

What is it with the hair thing, Babs? My bikini line now seems to start at the neck and doesn't stop until it hits me knees - eeek, I am cavewoman!

Thank you all for your lovely compliments - I tried not to laugh too much as I don't want anymore wrinkles.

Nothingman said...

jeez where do you find them sexy pics from? oh that brown skin!

well, you are as old as you feel, just chill 45 is young compared to those who are 90, :P

N

Minx said...

Isn't she fab, NM? How cool to be that comfortable with your body at that age (but what age is she?).

Mellifluous Dark said...

Happy Birthday for yesterday, Minx.

I've always wondered about those who say "you look good/young for your age". I wonder what exactly it is that they expect!

Mellifluous Dark said...

Oops, happy birthday for the 17th I should have said! Sorry...

gregra&gar said...

I believe hair growth patterns have unique rates and forms for each individual. I am just now growing side burns and chest hair and still have all the hair on my head at 69. I know many guys gone bald by thirty with a bear rug for body hair. We never stop changing naturally with age, just much less abruptly. I pay attention to the only thing one must determine for themselves — who it is looking out at the world through the eyes.

gregra&gar said...

lots of ps's coming back to wish you the happy birthday your eyes said it would be. Folks just like chatting with you so much they forget the formalities! I came back more to say that the minx behind those eyes will be there and perhaps more so as the years pile up around them as we grow old and loving together.

Jan said...

I am hitting St Ives this minute...!

Debi said...

In some cultures, where age is venerated and respected, it's considered a huge insult to say someone looks younger than they really are.

Want more? When I was coming up to 50, my dad (90 at the time) said, '50??? You don't know nuffink yet ...' Puts it into perspective.

Jan - what's St Ives ever done to you?

Minx said...

Thanks, Melli, and yes, what exactly do they mean? Have to say that some women I went to school with look as if they ought to drawing their pensions. I think the trick is not to act your age.

Why G&G, you are barely adolescent and I shall remain a cheeky minx until I hit the century!

Debi is right, Jan. St Ives is beautiful, it doesn't deserve a smack!

I have often thought that the best is to come, Debi. If you are as feisty as your dad when you get to his age the world better duck.

handmaiden said...

Oh gosh! you are such a trooper. if I can age as gracefully as you I'll be happy



ha ha...just kidding. fuck i'm older then you are. Now i'm depressed & I'm going down in the basement to work out on the Weider 4300.

Minx said...

What is this 'work out' you are talking about, Handmaiden, - sounds like pain and misery to me.

leslie said...

I always like to tell people I am 5years older than I actually am. It really draws the "you look so good for your age" compliments.
As long as the restaurant where I'm having my bithday dinner brings the free chocolate dessert with the candle, I'm good with whatever the number might be!

L.M.Noonan said...

Happy Birthady minxie. Lucky you sharing a birthday with my beloved. I just luv Capricorns, together we make MUD. By the way, Fong was 46 (he's my toy boy. I think you guys share a birthday with jim carrie...now that's SPOOKY.